My mom used to call me at midnight on all holidays, so it was something I did with her. Even after I moved out I would call her at midnight. She always wanted to be the first to celebrate whatever it was. I still wish the phone would ring but I know in my heart it won't. I hope that it is something my kids take from me and will pass on to their own families.
I love Mother's Day, I love helping the kids pick out and decide what they want to do for all the mommies in their lives, and there is more than just 1. The older kids have 2 stepmoms, it is actually their ex stepmom and their current but it is all the same to them. And they usually include their gramma, my ex husbands mom. We spend hours figuring out who likes what and what the perfect gift combo is going to be. Most years they get something customized to their liking and then something the same.
Most Mother's Day gift finding does not include things for me, I think I try to avoid it as much as possible. I try to keep my mind busy so I don't think about the mom that is missing. Everything is ok until I stop for a minute. Then I think back to all the Mother's Days with my mom. How many Mother's Days I have had without her....this will be my 14th year. So believe me when I say you are not alone.
And now here I am, a mom without my mom.
My older 3 do have a gramma on their dads side but there is no family on my side. My younger 2 do not have a gramma. I am very lucky that my ex mother in law treats them all the same but even with that, it is hard to not have my mom around for all their growing up.
I can hear my mom. I can see her in my thoughts.
So many of us moms are about to celebrate Mother's Day without our moms.
Just know again, you are not alone.
Feel free to leave a message to the mom that is gone. Tell her what you miss, what you wish you could have done differently, what you hope she sees you do from far away....