Her Ears Are Not Pierced? {parenting}
The girls and I had gone to the mall to wander around, hit up a few good sales, and do a little window shopping. They love to browse through Claire's. All the colors and sparkles. The jewelry and bags, accessories of all kinds! If allowed the girls could spend hours in that store....and alot of money!
But this is not about the store....this is about the age old question "To Pierce or Not To Pierce?"
As we were walking around Tierney was looking at earrings and of course little miss followed behind her. Both talking about how they wanted these small pink ones or the silver cat ones, or "oooo the dangley feathers are cute!' After going through most of the display I told them to pick out a few pairs they wanted. Tierney originally had her ears pierced when she was about 4 and then she stopped wearing earrings, she just didn't bother with them anymore. She does want them redone and we are planning on taking her in to get them redone. Little miss Em on the other hand does not have hers pierced. Up until a few months ago she never asked for earrings and was fine playing dress up with those little plastic clip ons.
Anyways, there was another mom in the store with a little girl, maybe a year old, with pierced ears. She overheard me talking to the girls about coming back in when my husband is available, possibly over the weekend, to get their ears pierced together. The woman asks "their ears are not pierced? Why would you buy them earrings now if they aren't pierced?" I quickly explain I let them pick out some so they could have them for later, once they were ready to switch out after piercing. She then said that "piercing a child's ears is something that should be done earlier years." "Should be done earlier on to make caring for them easier."
Like so many topics in regards to parenting the pierce or not, and when, debate is always full of opinions. I got mine done when I was 11, I just had not really asked for them up until then and my mom had them done. That was it. I allow the girls the same and if they want something they ask for it and we go from there.
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It's so funny how people always feel the need to put their two cents in to your conversation with the girls. It's good that you will allow the girls the option!
ReplyDeleteWow, that's crazy how bold people can me. Why doesn't she just worry about how she's raising her kids and not pass judgment onto others. It's best to just brush people like that off <3
ReplyDeleteSome people are so judgmental and need a filter. It is your preference. With my 1st daughter I did not let her get her ears pierced till her 5th birthday because I thought it was her decision but with the baby I got them pierced at 1. Don't let it get to you!
ReplyDeleteMy mom was always big on me not getting my ears pierced until I was much older, a teenager if that. Then one day my dad took my cousin and I shopping, and my cousin talked him into letting me do it :-). Turns out my mom was probably right -- they were continually infected and eventually I just let them grow over, lol! Oh well, at least I had a few months of enjoyment out of it!
ReplyDeleteIt always make me eye roll that someone must always express and unasked for opinion. They'll get their ears pierced when ready and we all do what we think is right.
ReplyDeleteHehehe I have always wanted to pierce my daughters ears but my hubby is so old fashioned when it comes to that kind of stuff... And now that she's a toddler and he's kind of lossened up on the idea, now I know she can't have them becaus she would yank them out -_-
ReplyDeleteHaha - that blows my mind that people would speak up like that. I can't imagine giving me opinion like that at any point.
ReplyDeleteYou just got to love them kinds of people that can't mind their own. They are every where. My ears were pierced at about 11 also. My daughters were a little older but by their choice.
ReplyDeleteI think most girls in America get them done before 1 years old because its the notion they will want earrings one day. Its like an American tradition but I understand your logic you want your children to make that decision themselves.
ReplyDeletePeople really don't know when to worry more about their own stuff. It is a personal choice, right?
ReplyDeleteI go back and forth with this issue. I let my daughters choose, but then I learned my lesson with my oldest who was about 6 yrs old. She made it nearly impossible to clean her ears, and they closed up. Then, we had to go back again a few years later. Sometimes I wish I had done ti when she was a little baby.
ReplyDeleteWe have decided to wait until our daughter graduates from elementary school. That seems like a good milestone to be rewarded with the responsibility of taking care of earrings.
ReplyDeleteGeez...why don't people just mind their own business? I only have one daughter and we pierced hers when she was three months, but she pulled them out, so we let them heal and here we are eight years later and she doesn't want them pierced. Nothing wrong with that...she'll do it when she's ready
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a kid and being scared of needles I never wanted to have anything to do with earrings not even clip ons until I was 23 that's when I had them done. I think the decision is for every parent and child not to be influenced by the other side
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