To The Moms That Have To Wait

by - January 30, 2017



Let me preface this with the why. I was on Pinterest one morning, just wasting a few minutes looking for Valentines Day crafts for my kids before they woke up. My little bit of time I get that is quiet before the chaos of the day begins and I saw this pin: A Letter To The Mom That Didn't Have To Wait and I thought well hmmmm, and here I am trying to find a little piece of silence when some get that luxury, or so us moms call it, all the time


Here is a little bit of what I stumbled upon 
"I am writing you to remind you to consider it a gift and a blessing that your story isn’t like mine. I am writing you to remind you that even on the hard days, there are millions who would trade you places in a second. I am writing you to remind you to be thoughtful of your words and maybe instead of complaining that it took you 3 months to conceive, consider it a blessing." (in due time


To the moms that have to wait, 

Thank you for the reminder. 
I often get so caught up in the day to day of everything that I feel overwhelmed. I get so caught up thinking about the future paths for them that I still don't get sleep, even now with my youngest already 7 and my oldest 16. It's an ongoing cycle. My brain is always going, always thinking, always on. 

I admit I do not know what it really means to want or wait for a child, the emotional roller coaster it must be. I can not begin to imagine the desire, and heartbreak. I know there really is not much I can say that will help you along. I do know that I hope you know that sharing your struggles is a wake up call for us that feel like we are at our wits end. I will take this reminder and step back when the house is a mess, the dinner is late, or the back talk begins, that there are many moms in the making

Just like you we do feel heartbreak and pain but for other reasons. We love these children unconditionally and more often than not we don't get that same love back for many years down the road, some not at all. Sometimes out kids don't turn out the way we plan. Sometimes they talk back, sometimes they don't clean their rooms or do homework. And sometimes we get super lucky and they do love us fully from the beginning. For each of them we are grateful though. 
So again, thank you for this little reminder that there are so many who have no idea what this all feels like. 

Thank you, 
From the moms out here. 



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13 comments

  1. This is such a sweet acknowledgement of what women must feel when they are struggling to become mothers. I used to know a girl who struggled so heavily with infertility in her marraige... She was so brokenhearted, and she would cry often about her feelings of loss and emptiness. She called herself a childless mother, and it always broke my heart to see her hurting. She taught me gratitude for my children, even when they're on my nerves or when I'm exhausted or overwhelmed.

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  2. This was really perfect! As a mom who did have to wait. Granted not nearly as long as some, but still, after my year of waiting for #2 I appreciate my children immensely! Even though they are teens and can be very trying some days, they are still very precious!

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  3. This is such a great, thought provoking post. One of my closest friends has been through many years of failed fertility treatments and heartbreaking moments trying to conceive. I have felt so much guilt in that there really isn't much I can do for her. There are so many other situations where there is something I can do to fix the problem. However, as a mother of two, I feel guilt of not being able to even really relate as much as she needs.
    I'm so glad I stopped by to read this today. It really made me pause for a moment to appreciate how thankful I am for my own children as well as make me take a moment to think of all of the women out there who would give anything to be in my place, even on the bad days.

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  4. This is a nice reminder. It is always a good idea to be thankful for and aware of the people around you. We never truly understand someone else's struggles.

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  5. How beautiful. We all do not know what is going on in peoples lives. I am so thankful for my children and wish only the best of those who do not have.

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  6. Wow, what a profound post! Not really something one thinks about, unless one has gone trough it.

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  7. Really a good thing to take pause and think about. Acknowledging our blessings is always a good thing. Realizing how lucky we are is a great thing. Caring for other is always great. Love this post. <3

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  8. Wow, that reminds me of how lucky that I am that I didn't have to wait to conceive. Sometimes we get so caught up in what's wrong in our lives we forget why we are so lucky sometimes. And your words back to her are amazing. We do all love our kids unconditionally, whether we waited or not. We are all moms.

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  9. A lovely reminder that everyones stuggles are different. We all have very different lives.

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  10. I loved your post and I could relate to it because, my best friend couldn't bear a child after 15 years of marriage.

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  11. Motherhood is hard, sometimes you don't even get the break that you need in order to take care of yourself. But it's true, all these moments big or small, they all matter and we should cherish it, because there are people out there who can't even experience what we're going through.

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  12. This was a great reminder for you to be thankful. In fact, it is one for us all so I thank you for sharing.

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  13. Such a good post, I have suffering from depression and many struggles this january. I wish I overcome

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